Every year we set out to make this our year.
The year of us. The year we do all. the. things.
But by February we’ve forgotten why we made all these goals to begin with.
I remember going to a leadership camp in high school at Emporia State University. It was a week-long camp that taught us everything about becoming better leaders in our school and in our community.
I learned so much at that camp. Valuable lessons. But one thing that has always stuck with me is about goals. One of the speakers had a powerful message on how and why we should be keeping our goals attainable.
Keep reading to find out how I keep my goals well within reach and some useful mom tips as well!
How to Keep Your Goals
1. Write Them Down
Goals that are written down are more attainable. Don’t believe me? Check out the Huffington Posts article that states that goals are 42% more likely to be reached when written down. That is incredible! By doing one simple thing we are almost twice as likely to reach them than people who don’t.
Mom Truth: Let’s be honest. We get mom brain after we start having kids. Like, bad. We forget even the simplest of things (sometimes even our own kids birthdays) so make sure to write those goals down. Type them up and save them to your phone so you can access them when you need a little review on why you are doing X activity!
2. Keep Them Specific
Keeping goals specific allows you to clearly see what you intend to accomplish. No matter if that is a few weeks away or a few years away. It gives a clear path to success. Try and make sure to include the what, why, who, where, and which of your goals.
Mom Truth: We can all agree most people want to be a better mom. When writing down your goals make sure they are specific to you and your kids. If you have multiple kids write down specific goals on how you would like to be a better mom to each child. You are all your children’s mom (obvi) but they are each unique in their own ways and usually require different ways of parenting than their sibling counterpart.
Example: Take Johnny on a mommy and me date once a month (no other kids allowed!)
3. Make Them Measurable
Making goals that are measurable give us a time frame to work with. If we have an end goal in mind, it fuels our fire to achieve said goal. Make sure to write down how you know it will be accomplished.
Many people assume measurable goals are determined in time but the term of measurement is up to you. It could be ‘I want to do x when I save x amount of money.’ You will know you have reached the goal when you have x amount of money in the bank.
Mom Truth: If simplifying your home is a goal this year give yourself a small reward after completing a task. Break down how you want to simplify. Simplify room by room. Simply household cleaners. Simply your beauty routine. It is up to you, but make sure they are measurable. It will keep your drive alive when you have accomplished something on your list!
4. Keep Them Achievable
This is where most people go wrong. They have these big dreams and goals, which is fantastic but in reality most are not achievable in the current circumstances. Most people take on too much at the beginning of the year and after a few weeks they lose their steam.
Reign it in and make sure those goals are just far enough you can’t touch them but with a little work they could totally be grasped. And if you need to redefine your goals a few weeks in, go for it!
Mom Truth: We are moms. As bad as we want to, we can’t do all the things. We have tiny humans to care for, husbands to love, and a home to maintain. Be realistic with yourself. Don’t expect to be able to accomplish all your goals by March. It is a gradual process, give yourself grace.
5. Make Them Relevant
Not all things we aspire for need to be obtained at this exact moment. And most won’t. Make sure the goals you are setting for yourself and your family are relevant to your current circumstances. It is not feasible to have goals that are not appropriate for this season of life.
One of my favorite life lessons we can all use help with is learning to say no. I give you permission to say no to the goals that don’t fit in now (check out this great article on Make 2018 Your “Year of NO!!!”).That doesn’t mean they won’t in the future, so keep them tucked away for a later time.
Mom Truth: The season of life you are in will help you determine what is relevant to you. In this season of life with 3 kids you might not have a chance to work out 7 days a week, but you may have time for 3 or 4 days. This isn’t to say that you’ll never be able to work out 7 days a week again. It is saying that in this season, I have priorities, some of which are more important than working out 7 days a week (and that’s OK).
6. Keep Them Time-Bound
Earlier we discussed how to keep your goals measurable but now we are discussing how to use a time-frame to achieve those goals. Make sure to write down at what stages you need to accomplish bits of the goal to further achieve the overall picture.
Do you need to do something in 6 days, 6 weeks, 6 months to achieve your overall goal? Make sure to write those steps down to ensure success!
Mom Truth: Maybe your goal is to have a more adventurous summer with your kids while they are out of school. Start thinking of ways now to accomplish that. Start looking for supplies that you will need for fun projects. Research places to take them hiking and what equipment you will need. Book your hotel for a fun weekend get away to the beach. Whatever your goal is break it down into bite-sized pieces to take the stress off when that time comes around.
If you want more in-depth discussion about SMART goals head over to Mind Tools!
The majority of people start off the new year with a lot on their minds. It is a fresh start. A new beginning. As it should be. But we need to make sure we maintain control over our thoughts and goals. Using these six techniques to help you set your goals or adjust them should prove to be beneficial in this new year!
If you have already started off the year with lofty goals but are now second-guessing them, pause, take a deep breath, and reevaluate. There is no law to say you cannot start fresh in February!
What are some of your goals for 2018?!
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